The awakened heart is a broken heart

by Martyn Webber

There’s grief in awakening. Grief at the loss of autonomy, grief at the loss of purpose and meaning. Grief at the loss of knowing and certainty, however deluded they were. There’s grief over losing one’s power, and one’s familiar identity.

There’s so much loss in awakening. When it dawns that there’s nothing we can keep, nothing can be retained beyond its prescribed time, and all that we know and love must pass, then a natural grief for all of it can come. And since this knowledge of loss is for all of it, for all time, then that ache of grief is an ever-present refrain, a broken heart, amidst the delight at the miracle and mystery of life.

We know this poignancy, this pathos, because it’s familiar, it’s part of us, and it’s not wrong. It’s not something to be avoided or excised. We must comfort ourselves and each other tenderly, as we struggle to find the inevitable ground of acceptance.

More on GRIEF on this website — this is a favorite collection What if grief is the natural order of things, a way of loving life anyway?

 

martynMartyn Webber is a spiritual teacher, philosopher, mystic and writer who helps people discover and embody their true nature and essential freedom as boundless, ever-present awareness. To read more from Martyn or learn about his work go to martynwebber.com

A story about the body and coming to know the inner asshole too…

This isn’t a story in the usual sense. this is about what is happening in my body and how it affects everything else.  It is what is happening.

It feels like my brain is literally being physically and structurally transformed. Because of the nervous system injuries this repair has taken many years and it’s actually excruciatingly painful at times.

It’s crazy painful –nonetheless, I’ve learned to surrender into it, though how gracefully this is accomplished varies a lot. There are many indications that I’m doing well…and yet it continues to be a radical and fringe individuation and  integration process that repeatedly wrecks me physically and emotionally and spiritually, all. Waking up involves multiple deaths if we trust any of the sages of all mystical traditions. Ego death is just part of the process and sometimes the body is literally challenged that way too. Death, in fact, no longer scares me at all. I am being made fearless. With a trashed nervous system that is in fear mode by default, fearlessness becomes a strange byproduct of years of hyper-vigilance accompanied by mindfulness..

Things are going relatively smoothly considering what I’ve come through. I am not sure how it’s going to proceed but it’s definitely fascinating, often exciting and always extraordinarily challenging if also heinously ugly as well. Life is always a mixture of everything in any case.

As the process happens I get corresponding insights about the nature of reality. I suppose that’s the best part but it’s bizarre isolating process too– all of it.

End of little story.

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Rather than looking for your “tribe” recognize tribe in everyone who comes before you. We are humanity. We are family. Let us remember.

About community — “It’s about learning how to live with people most of whom you would never choose as friends.” and so it is. Organic community must be like this. We need to get real and open our hearts 

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” I don’t know what to do with myself. I guess I’ll be a life coach.” Nothing like somebody who couldn’t figure out what to do with themselves coaching others on how to deal with not knowing what to do with themself.

The  guru is within. Look no further.

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Come to know the inner asshole. We all have one and if we don’t come to intimately know and understand how the asshole became wounded we will hurt others from that place and we will do it with great confidence that we are acting appropriately. Yes, come to know the inner asshole.

What we do as a society currently is Project our inner assholes outward so completely that we create categories of evil people become receptacles for our projections thus becoming trapped in behavior that we are actually complicit with. Yes sit with that for a little while.

Watch yourself reject this idea. Watch yourself get uncomfortable and defensive. Sit with those feelings too.

When we finally come to see that within us we hold everything including the people who hurt us, it becomes possible to see that forgiveness is actually a moot point. Understand that we hold the perpetrator within and all is instantaneously forgiven. No blame.

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If I’m asking “why?” I might as well ask “why not?” too.

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When people trigger us they may not be dangerous/nasty/whatever – it may simply mean that we are afraid…When we are fearless we see that no one is inherently dangerous/nasty/violent whatever…

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Like it or not, it’s only in my woundedness that I know the things I know. In the process of deep acceptance — clarity comes.

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AND yes, still, SERIOUSLY. I could use some compensation for the many 100s of hours I’ve worked with folks over the years. Working like we do and not getting any sort of compensation that I might live more comfortably in the face of continued challenges continues to teach us what we’ve learned from psychiatry. We must not be worth it. Let’s change that patterning. If I helped you or a loved one out, please help me back now. thank you.

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Say yes…

Listen to the body. It has all our ancestors within. Lots of mothers and fathers from the beginning of time…all recorded in our DNA. We also have access to the entire living collective via our body and spirit, both.

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If we see unconsciousness in another it is none other than our own unconsciousness.

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Dimensions will endlessly multiply. They are the same thing as voices in the so-called psychotic. Watch it all — don’t get sucked in — every “dimension” will collapse into one.

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Motivation is largely unconscious and connected to our ancestral lineage. It doesn’t actually have any rational sense in any sort of conventional sense. We tell a lot of stories about motivation but ultimately we don’t even actually have much if any control over what it is we do. Because we are the accumulated result of our ancestors and we come to consciousness as a cog in that line of beings– we discover something unique to us and bring that new data in for the entire human species and the one connected entity that is everything…

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We are infected with our own unlived lives.

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Say yes to your experience. That is all.

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So be it

 

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Is anyone not insane?

In response to this question from the last two posts “Is anyone not insane?” Paul Woodward, my partner, responded with the below:

Among the multitude of dualities we struggle with, the most persistent is perhaps the struggle to impose order on disorder — control on the uncontrollable.

I was thinking about this a couple of days ago and applying one of the cultural lens I use so often, along with biology.

Homeostasis seems to be one of the most fundamental processes in biology and from a Western perspective, homeostasis looks like order.

What it really is, however, is the balancing of opposites and this isn’t a concept that’s really embraced in the West.

We look at these as a struggle between competing forces in which one will ultimately defeat the other. So there’s a perpetual struggle for domination — good against evil, sanity against insanity, order against chaos, etc.

In Western thought, there’s no counterpart to yin-yang. But that’s surely the only way of coming to any kind of resolution: to embrace everything and exclude nothing.

ah, a man after my own heart. 🥰 I often call my healing process one of the marriage of opposites. Of course, I explain my process in many ways. The bringing together of opposites is pretty fundamental, however. Embracing spectrums and bringing together opposites. They collapse at some point into simply the whole.

More by Paul Woodward on this site

Attention to the Unseen: Paul’s site

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Mini meditations for your pleasure in contemplation…

I often think in brief statements and feel less and less inclined to go on and on about much in full-length articles. I still enjoy the full-length articles when they emerge, they just are not emerging as often. And so I offer the below. Nuggets of fun stuff to think about.

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Hands are astonishingly beautiful. I highly recommend gazing at and watching your hands with mindfulness and love.

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the idea of controlling one’s thoughts is rather amusing as well as simple fantasy. We can watch our thoughts and grow less attached to our thoughts but controlling them isn’t on the cards. Becoming familiar with them & watching them move like the weather is a very useful skill however

more: meditation

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I said no to my personal mythology. Everything has radically shifted — the only paradigm: the unknown.

more: personal mythology

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“if I can do it anyone can” – yeah, that’s BS…we’re all different so even if something looks similar on the surface the contexts of our lives are endlessly varied. When we value our differences we can start to listen to the other rather than assume we know anything about them

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We need to be aware of when we’re projecting…at this point I figure, if I’m feeling it, it’s mine. That’s not a popular opinion among those who call themselves “empaths.” Come on though…we’re either all connected or we’re not. Project and be in spiritual bypass or we can be radical and own our shit and grow and be healthy.

more: empaths and empathy

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We shoot for the stars when we really need to be shooting for the dirt underneath our feet.

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Belief, Myth, stories, about that which we cannot see– that which is the realm of the spirit– are all ungrounded. The mystery is real– claiming to know what it is not so much.

Fantasies hurt. Seeking hurts. Letting go into the mystery offers relief.

more: belief

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there is only one voice one needs to hear and it is a whisper

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the healthy body wants a healthy inflammatory response. it allows for the flushing of foreign invaders out of the body. it’s not until the body is unhealthy, (beyond threshold in multiple ways) that inflammation gets out of control and starts hurting the body…

more: body healiing

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The universe responds. It leads and it follows and it accompanies. Dance with the universe any way you see fit. She is waiting.

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I don’t think my medicine it just comes into being as I work in my kitchen and watch. …food and herbal mixtures come upon me…I watch as it flows out of me…my body leads the way…the recipe as much a surprise to me as to anyone else… the act of CREATION, the act of MEDICINE in the kitchen.

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Of course we’re wrong about some stuff. We all are pretty much all the time. The clearer we get the more we don’t attach to ideas … we can still use them for utilitarian purposes….and learn and grow. I started practicing non-belief many years ago now. Non-belief goes along with being in the mystery, in the unknown.

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We got to give it all up. The romance, the fantasies the mythologies. We wake up into the ordinariness of our life. And yes it remains miraculous too.

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some people are able to create their own safe spaces…may those of us who’ve been graced to have the resources to do this work help create spaces for our less resourced sensitive brothers and sisters in pain.

more: mental illness system and alternatives

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S.A.D? (Seasonal Affective Disorder) or might we be fighting nature?

Healthline, which features my site along with nine others on their best of depression blogs has sent me a couple of emails asking if I might share a post from their site about “Seasonal Depression.”   —  I don’t use the term depression for my experience,  but I do find that there is a big natural shift in winter that encourages going inward and slowing down. I have found for a long time now that moving away from the pathologizing of my experience has been a healthy move for me and many of the folks I advocate for.  It strikes me that our culture is sick and we need to find ways of going back to basics and our true nature.

I often speak to the changing of seasons on this site and how I see the natural contracting that happens in winter as a part of being human. It’s a sad reality that our society largely doesn’t know how to deeply and profoundly meet the human animal and so it forces most of us to do far more than our animal bodies want to do to also stay healthy and balanced. This means that folks who cannot keep up with the rat race end up believing and being told that they are sick and disordered. It’s a shame, really. All of life contracts in the winter but we humans are supposed to be separate from this web of life. This is how I’ve come to see my natural change of pace in the winter.

I see “S.A.D” not as a pathological process, indeed, not as a disorder, but as our bodies flowing with nature in a natural way … if we let it. Fighting it will, indeed, make us sick, that strikes me as the disorder. We all fight our natural way of being in this culture. We’re all conditioned away from who we are to the point of truly making ourselves unwell. I understand that sometimes framing one’s experience as illness in these contexts is helpful to some folks. I’ve not found it to be for myself and I tend to speak from this alternate framing of these phenomena on this site.

My healing process from psych drug injury, more than anything, has been a coming back to my animal body that knows how to be in this life. It’s a beautiful process really, but oh, man, has it been a long hard haul.  In surrender I am now finding this winter beautiful as I slow down and go inward with a deep gratitude to be alive. After almost dying last winter I am indeed rather pleased at the change this year. Pleased is an understatement but it’s hard to make clear just how I feel because truly coming into the body and being here now is also a bit anticlimactic. No bells and whistles, just grounded pleasure to be alive.

So if all of nature contracts in winter…why shouldn’t we also do the same?

In any case the items listed in the comfort kit in the post from Healthline is quite good for supporting our natural contractions in winter regardless of how we choose to frame what is happening. Most of what it suggests I either do or have tried at one time or another. Anyone who has read me for long knows I love epsom salt baths!  Also getting out in nature is a critically important part of my life all year-long.  And mindfulness and meditation is an all year long 24/7 affair for me as well. I wouldn’t be here without my process. It’s foundational.

I don’t, on the other hand have any interest is filling up my social calendar and that seems like something that is very personal. I didn’t even know I was an introvert until I started my healing process. I believed I should be out there mixing with humanity far more than is actually healthy for me, so getting stuck at home ill helped me find that aspect of myself too, so that’s not something I need to pursue more than what comes naturally … Number 6 in the post from Healthline is filling up the social calendar. I can tell you when I need to go inward ( — a deep dive into myself, getting quiet) … socializing a lot is the last thing I need or want. I do, however, participate in the local ecstatic dance scene a couple of times a week as part of my mindfulness practice and it’s lovely to be connected to my community there. Of note, I can go or  not go as my body dictates and desires and so there is no pressure to show up. It’s certainly nice to be around my community when I’m up for it. I love it and it’s a very important part of my life.

Spring and summer is like another world. I am intimately part of the world around me. (posts on the seasons here and here.)

I hope we can all learn to enjoy the quiet darkness of winter.

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Mindfulness / Meditation and Complex Trauma: The Rewards and the Risks

This article has arisen as a response to a general phenomena I’ve been observing for some years. Recently, after a friend shared her annoyance and anger about meditation being touted as a cure all for depression, I started to put down my thoughts. On many occasions I’ve been critical of the marketing of meditation in popular culture but now I want to go into this issue more deeply.

Even while relying on mindfulness as the cornerstone of my own healing process, I’ve found that most popular guidance on meditation and mindfulness only offers a superficial treatment of what this is about. It can cure anxiety, depression, help you be more focused, empathic, compassionate — the list goes on. The fact that meditation can actually help support a lot of positive things in people’s life dominates the conversation. And while it can indeed do all of that, in the process of getting there it is also a destructive force, challenging the conditioned self. It can tear us to shreds before it makes us feel better. This isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution and in some instances it can be plain dangerous.

It’s taken years of dedicated mindfulness practice, going deep into the darkest parts of the human psyche, for me to heal from the insults that psychiatry imposed upon me. Most of the time this has been anything but pleasant, peaceful, and anxiety-free. It’s been quite the opposite as I’ve struggled to come to terms with what happened to me and so many other victims of psychiatry. This process continues as I heal and gain clarity.

In this process I’ve learned how to listen to my body and follow my own guidance. This is not a precise process nor is it without risk. I ended up in the ICU for a week a year ago, almost dying as a result of this process as I learned and sometimes made mistakes about what to do at each stage of healing. Mistakes and misinterpretations of what is happening while we heal our bodies is simply part of the process.

The good news is that I’ve learned to shut out the multiple conditioned voices of our ugly capitalistic system and come back to myself. To be clear, this continues – it’s always an ongoing process. And indeed, what media hype and those selling mindfulness don’t tell you is that mindfulness is a process that can radically transform you and it’s not always safe nor is it easy or straightforward. We make it safer by being aware of the risks and learning to listen to our own bodies about when it is or isn’t okay for us. No one else actually knows. Learning from those we trust is a good idea but in the end only we know what is best for us. Sharing experience is far better than being told what to do. Proceeding carefully and with self-respect is important. Sometimes the process involves learning to do both those things, hence the risk involved and the potential for serious mistakes. Mindfulness and meditation is not always appropriate for everyone all the time. This can change too and is part of the bumpy road of life.

Deep profound, honest mindfulness can alienate and isolate while on the way to well-being. It isn’t a quick fix and popular accounts generally ignore this fact. But there are a few people speaking to this. I have a page on this site called: “Meditation: not all bliss and roses…” It explains that mindfulness can lead to complete break-down. It did, necessarily for me, really. Or more accurately it brought me through complete breakdown and helped me get well. (I was bedridden and nonverbal for some years — that of course was caused by iatrogenic psych drug brain injury and because instead of being taught to listen to myself as a young woman in crisis I was drugged, almost to death, by a system that doesn’t know how to help us through psycho/spiritual crisis). Mindfulness and meditation did not shorten that process at all but it certainly informed it.

Mindfulness has been profoundly healing and really is the foundation of everything I have learned, but yeah…flippantly telling people to meditate without such understanding is irresponsible.

When we start to watch and pay attention, whatever we’ve neglected will arise. In some instances this can be radically destabilizing. For those of us with these severe psych drug injuries there is the fact that it can be unbearable to be in our skins. Knowing when to find distractions is as important as practicing mindfulness. I started out doing literally 30 seconds at a time because of the nightmarish condition of my nervous system. This journey has taken years.

Most of the readers of this site and this author are dealing with complex trauma from adverse child experience, which is then further complicated by the heinous trauma incurred by the psychiatric establishment’s neuro-toxic drugging of our pain and then the profound denial by society and the medical and psychopharmaceutical complexes. Denial of what we go through is part of the trauma becoming further embedded.

Also, for me, formal (sitting) meditation was/is only a wee bit of my practice. Most of my practice is 24/7 learning to be in the present while allowing the past to come up and out (not pretty, quite often). Mindfulness. Paying attention to this moment now. All the time. That’s all. It’s simple and for those with complex trauma it remains risky, and sometimes excruciatingly difficult and thus, not always a good idea.

So, here I’m presenting another view of meditation and mindfulness that contrasts sharply with the popular one… This view is much more complex and there is no sugar coating. This path can kill. Seriously. And it almost has finished me off in both positive and negative ways. AND, I’m deeply grateful that I’ve stuck it out too…your mileage will vary. I have one caveat on this site that is ever-present when I share healing techniques, supports and ideas. THIS MAY OR MAY NOT BE APPROPRIATE FOR YOU. Please trust your inclinations and move forward accordingly.

Another important thing: Well-being doesn’t have much to do with being happy…yet happiness happens, on occasion just like every other state of being and mind. It’s called being human. We are not always happy and marketing for meditation and mindfulness that promises endless happiness is delusional at best… See: Marketing happiness

Meditation has guided me so that I’ve learned how to feed myself, how to move, everything … FOR ME. Again, I don’t tell people how to eat. My diet has had to change numerous times. When we are paying attention we learn that healing is a dynamic, ever changing, process. Our needs change as we heal and being mindful allows us to recognize when things have changed so that we can respond differently to the moment. So mindfulness is only the foundation of coming to awareness of our kaleidoscopic realities so that we might fluidly and vibrantly respond to what is happening now and that, again, is always changing. Most people don’t seem to understand that paying profound attention to our lives will alter everything and it takes time, yeah. (See: Everything Matters)

Meditation/mindfulness is the practice of learning to pay attention. That is all.

When one understands this then anything that is going on is worthy of being with. Another myth about meditation is that you’re supposed to be silent and peaceful while engaging with it. Real meditation stays with whatever arises. It embraces and allows everything and that includes ALL the chaos in our nervous systems. If we have psych drug brain injuries it is a herculean feat to stay with that stuff a good part of the time. As we do this we can respond more and more skillfully to the moment. The process, again, can involve a steep and long learning curve.

Having complex trauma complicates everything.

Mindfulness and meditation are most certainly included in that everything…meditation is risky because we have been forced to bury and deny so much pain. This pain and then the violent drugging of that pain, changes the nervous system in profound ways, making meditation frankly risky and sometimes dangerous. There is an interesting book available now by David A. Treleaven: Trauma-Sensitive Mindfulness: Practices for Safe and Transformative Healing

This book by Treleaven is good to a certain point as it addresses the issue of meditation being risky but it fails to point out the systemic oppressive and often retraumatizing nature of psychiatry and the mental health professions, which is frankly a glaring omission in a book that otherwise speaks with some sophistication about the links between trauma, oppression and social justice in our society. So read it with that warning. I found it quite triggering with this omission of something so critically important for so many of us. We cannot get the help we need when the systemic problems we’re facing are not being acknowledged.

Many folks with psych nistories have been denied inclusion when approaching mindfulness teachers too…sometimes in ways that are very traumatic. This too, isn’t mentioned and it’s an omission that is an ugly blindspot on the part of the author and most meditation teachers and mental health professionals in general. We should not be ignored and dismissed. We need to come into the conversation and together we might all find ways to create safe and inclusive spaces for some of our most vulnerable members of society. See: Freedom To Sit: Welcoming People with Psychiatric Labels at Buddhist Retreats — by Will Hall

So, systems are often dangerous in that they seem incapable of acknowledging their profession’s own grave shortcomings nor do they seem to understand or appreciate the sort of systemic oppressive force that psychiatry and the belief in the medical model is. Microaggressions against the population of people labeled by psychiatry are everywhere in society all the time. People who are labeled by psychiatry continue to be infantilized and stripped of dignity often for the rest of their adult lives. Far too many people are lost to the system with no hope of ever disengaging. For this reason many in the system never get a chance to heal their early adverse trauma because it is continued and made much worse in the name of psychiatric treatment.

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For me meditation is the integration process.

Another myth is that long formal sitting retreats are necessary to become aware. This is not true and in some cases long retreats can even be counterproductive. Some formal sitting can be helpful at some junctures for some people. Clearly it’s also very constructive for some people. Again, everyone is different.

I do what I do and I watch. I am what I am and I watch.

Pema Chödrön articulates what meditation is very clearly:

Meditation is about seeing clearly the body that we have, the mind that we have, the domestic situation that we have, the job that we have, and the people who are in our lives. It’s about seeing how we react to all these things. It’s seeing our emotions and thoughts just as they are right now, in this very moment, in this very room, on this very seat. It’s about not trying to make them go away, not trying to become better than we are, but just seeing clearly with precision and gentleness…[We] work with cultivating gentleness, innate precision, and the ability to let go of small-mindedness, learning how to open to our thoughts and emotions, to all the people we meet in our world, how to open our minds and hearts. — Pema Chödrön from The Wisdom of No Escape and the Path of Loving-Kindness

Paying attention and developing clarity can be a very difficult feat in a culture where we are taught to deny so much of our being. Finding ourselves again, though, is incredibly well worth the time and effort put into learning to do so. Remember, it’s not always about sitting cross-legged. Paying attention (mindfulness), can be brought into every moment of our lives and in fact in the end that’s really what it’s all about.

Meditation is the practice of learning to pay attention. That is all.

Posts on Everything Matters that explore the nature of meditation:

also: Psychiatry as retraumatizing system

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Ecstatic dance today!

dancing madly this morning…the above is my garb — essentially barefoot in my pajamas with headphones attached to my head with a headband …

I’m listening to the brilliant dj-ing of Robert Kochka Jr danced this first at an Asheville Movement Collective Wave more than a year ago– find his waves on soundcloud… was gonna share the one I had on my iPod but it’s no longer there…so here’s his page…dive in!   Robert on SoundCloud https://soundcloud.com/robert-kochka-jr

see my posts on this site on ecstatic dance here: Ecstatic Dance

one of my favorite mindfulness practices is DANCING. Yes, dancing, too can be done mindfully! Learning to become embodied can be FUN!

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no longer on twitter…the tweets keep coming…

I’ve been weaning off social media for some years. I’ve now been completely off twitter and facebook for a month. Twitter for 2 months actually. Twitter was always my very favorite. I did a video about it some years ago because it was such a positively transformative experience for me. That said, all things change and since Trump came to power twitter, (and facebook) have become ugly divisive spaces of out of control hysteria and hatred (coming from all “sides” … ). I feel better staying away from it all I mean really a whole lot better. My nervous system thanks me for it. I also miss some particular people a whole lot but it seems one must take the bad with the good and the bad now seriously trumps (ha! … that wasn’t on purpose) the good. I have some very good friends from social media scattered about the world and I do really miss that part. I also miss writing on twitter especially. I loved the short 140 character twitter limit. (which is also gone now). Anway…I sometimes come up with stuff that is tweet like…and so I’m sharing a few of those and some somewhat longer stuff too. Enjoy. Or not. That is okay too.

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once upon a time tweets were called aphorisms….

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practice recognizing the new story…and then let go of that too…

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Universalizing our experience is not empathy. We cannot experience true empathy for others without a fine imagination.

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“his/her, their vibration isn’t high enough” (thus we will stay away from those human beings.) — a convenient, simple and ultimately dehumanizing way to deny people if you’re in the new age and/or “waking up” crowd. Yes, one more divisive trope.

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Conditioning ain’t pretty and people often adopt new, similarly toxic conditioning rather than really letting the old come off. The level of BS that goes on among those who claim to be waking up is a bit like really sleeping very deeply with one’s head up in an awkward position.

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sometimes a positive spin is just plain delusional…

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Healing and life…it’s never what we expect…expectations actually get in the way… Ideology, of all kinds, too, gets in the way of meeting the moment with honesty…

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yoyo swimming. everything real and unreal.

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We are a concert of multiple beings…our microbiome (and other equally unseen things) are more in control than most of us want to know…

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underneath hatred and aversion is pain. so much pain. let us feel it and cease hating

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capitalism: everybody’s gotta be a somebody. social media…the marketing of your soul. everyone is a brand.

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it’s always an adventure into the ordinary…what is, is.

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the last sentence in every living beings story: and then he/she/they/it died

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oddly enough faith can remain when there is no longer belief…

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and a little paragraph:

We are all entitled to love. we are not entitled to how it comes to us, however. Being possessive or controlling of others is not a justified way to seek out the love we’re entitled to. The root of possessiveness and control is the sense that we are entitled to love and we know we are not getting it — possessiveness and control is a misguided attempt to get what we sense is possible and inherently ours. It remains violent to impose our lack on others. This is what is happening everywhere. As we come to realize our own desperation and lack of connection we can stop trying to control those around us who are equally unable to get what they need. The love is there. Our bodies need to calm down and allow what is always there already. That is everyone’s task. To learn to calm the nervous system and be at peace. It must become societies main goal that we support everyone in learning to do that. The problem with those in socially sanctioned positions of “healing” is that most of them are still bleeding from the jugular themselves while claiming to help their “clients,” “patients” etc. Human beings, first and foremost are peers. There is no hierarchy in a just society. Let us find love. Let us find one another.

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